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MOMSense #2-Teaching Children to Take Turns

When my boys were small I can recall one of my less than stellar moments on the mothering front! Actually I can remember a lot of those moments but that’s a story for another day.  The phone rang. Both boys lunged for the phone and a fight ensued and escalated for right answer the phone. Pushing, shoving, yelling, and a of hair pulling resulted as each boy attempted to best the other. After I wrangled the receiver away from the boys I tried to calmly say, "Hello." The deep pastoral voice of my beloved pastor, Dr. Adrian Rogers, replied. Humiliated, I could barely concentrate on what he was saying for plotting just what I was going to do to my children as soon as I hung up the phone for embarrassing me!

Believing that God's Word holds all the answers for life's questions, I asked the Lord to show me how to resolve the accelerating competition between my two boys. Some days later I came upon this verse in Proverbs. Prov. 18:18 says, The cast lot puts an end to strife and decides between the mighty ones. This verse prompted me to come up with a system to end strife between my  pre-schoolers and we used it for years. We cast lots, so to speak. Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays were Jason's days. Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays were Dawson's and Sunday was the day we all practiced deferring to one another. If it was your day, you got to answer the phone, choose which color of cup you wanted, decide on which game to play, etc. without challenge. This immediately put an end to the constant wrangling and taught my boys to take turns, know their time to "be first" was coming. 

Look for Biblically sound and creative ways to help teach and train your children in the behaviors that you want them to learn. Pattern the behavior for them. Reinforce the correct behavior with verbal affirmation. Correct behavior you will not allow or tolerate. Commit to doing this over and over again for the next 20 years without losing heart! Peter wrote, “Therefore, I will always be ready to remind you of these things, though you already know them.” Go and do likewise!

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